Abundance versus Scarcity

I used to believe that success was defined by achievement. I admired those who achieved degrees and titles because those things seemed to be what people celebrated. The older I get, the more I have come to realize how no achievement matters if you think in terms of scarcity. If you believe that everything is […]

Angels and Demons

My dad passed away last week. It feels misleading to say he “passed away” because that gives the perception of a serene slipping away. It’s not the same in my mind since he killed himself. I have been on countless suicide scenes over my career and I find them to be so complex because those […]

The Ultimate Betrayal

When I learned that Lt. Joe Gliniewicz from Fox Lake, IL, was shot and killed while investigating 3 suspicious subjects, I was devastated. There were 7 officers shot that week in incidents across the country and emotions were already running high. So when it happened so close to home, it felt like an epidemic that […]

Who are you and why should I believe you?

I got accepted into the Naval Postgraduate School to pursue a second Master’s Degree in Homeland Security and Defense in June of this year. I decided to move outside of my comfort zone in quest of this degree because I feel as though state and local government needs to be more in sync with the […]

Choose Your Own Adventure

When I was a kid, I used to read a book series called “Choose Your Own Adventure”.  I loved the books because the stories were formatted so that the reader would be faced with two or three options, each of which leads to more options, and then to one of many endings. Making the right […]

Navigating through the Gray Areas

Bertrand Russell said “The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt.” If this is a true statement, I must be borderline genius given my consistent grapple with uncertainty. Choices that confront us are so easy when we have to choose between right and wrong. If […]

Respect is the Cornerstone of Policing

A few years ago, video was captured of Baltimore police officer Salvatore Rivieri confronting some kids who were skateboarding in an area that was prohibited.  In the video, Officer Rivieri approaches and advises them in a rather stern manner that they cannot ride their skateboards in the area.  One of the kids replies, “Okay, I […]

What’s in a Name?

During his sermon Sunday morning, Reverend Gary McCann talked about names. Quite simply, the name given to us at birth that we’ve spent our lives growing into. The name we answer to when called upon and what has become the core of our identity. Reverend Gary talked about how we are much more than the […]

Personal Lessons from the Community Forums

I was skimming through a few of the Aurora Facebook groups where residents convene to post and discuss anything and everything pertaining to Aurora. As a resident of Aurora, I always love to see pictures of beautiful architecture and landmarks that are so prominent in our city.  But I also started to notice that our […]

Keep Them Between the Lines

The relative of a gang member who was recently shot and killed told the media, “Gang-banging was only a small part of who he was.” I knew what she meant. He was a son, a brother and a friend. He may very well have been a great guy. This is the irony of criminals whose […]